Three Ways to Increase Intimacy in Your Marriage
Three Ways to Increase Intimacy in Your Marriage. One of the biggest complaints among married couples is lack of physical intimacy. How can things go from being so hot in the beginning and cool down so much after only a little drifting? This can easily lead to frustration, and then eventually very little to no intimacy at all. Don’t let this happen to you. Learn how to prevent it with these three ways to increase intimacy in your marriage.
Make sure there is at least one evening a week when the two of you have time together without interruptions. This can be a special date night- going out, or the two of you can stay in the house, but it has to be a plan in which both of you agreed on a specific time. If events like these are not added to the calendar, most likely they won’t happen. Every day life gets in the way very easily and only brings disappointment. Don’t risk it. Your marriage is worth making special plans for. What good is it, if everything else gets done, but the two of you are left frustrated? Don’t allow overwhelm to mess up your chance at building your bond.
2. Stop Living Separate Lives
When everything is going well, it doesn’t seem like a big deal to drive in separate cars to separate jobs everyday, and attend separate activities. However, it’s a terrible offense. Eventually, when distance and disagreements do start to creep up, as they do for all of us, your connection can become weak. If both of you work outside the home, carpool to and from work together at least one day a week. It may require waking up earlier, but when you were dating, you would have done everything in your power to ride together in the same car to the same places. Why not do it now? It will bring you closer to one another. If only one of you work outside the home, and the other works at home, be inclusive. What I mean by this is, include your spouse in the work you do, by talking about what goes on and take them with you to work parties and events. Likewise for those of you who work at home. Be sure to share in caring for the children together- bath time and bedtime are good examples.
Every chance you get, I would like to encourage you to spend as much time possible talking to your spouse. At home, in the car, wherever. Whether you’re on your lunch break, short break, or commute, call your spouse. Even if you still wind up discussing everyday events, there will at least be a few minutes of communication for the two of you to talk and share personal things. By personal things, I mean needs, wants, ideas and thank yous. It’s such a blessing to hear, “hey I had fun when we…” and “it was great spending time with you last night” the day following an evening together. Talking is one of the best ways to share and build a connection with the person you love. Taking time to exchange information is an investment you’re making, and it will certainly pay off.
These three ways to increase intimacy in your marriage are a great place to start. However, if you’re looking for real lasting change with progress, they will need to be applied with the right attitude. Genuinely wanting to bring your spouse into your world, and vise versa, is the only way to increase physical intimacy, as well as emotional. When you feel connected, you will have an increased desire.